Writing
Healing, trauma, and consciousness
Essays on what actually resolves, what only manages, and why the difference matters. No newsletter wall — everything here is free to read.
My Persian Friend
A firsthand account of the bloody protests in Iran, from my new friend.
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Trauma Healing Saved My Relationship With My Neighbor
After months of frustration that escalated into conflict, I used trauma healing to arrive at an unexpected but satisfactory resolution.
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The Conditions for True Healing
Real healing is possible, but only if two conditions are met. Most methods miss at least one, which is why change doesn’t “stick.” Here’s what you need to know.
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Why Patterns Are So Hard to Change
If you’ve done a lot of work and paid a lot of money to understand the origins of your patterns, tendencies, or behaviors, you may be understandably frustrated when this knowledge doesn’t give you the power to change them as much as you hoped to.
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The Nature of Epiphanies
There’s nothing to figure out, other than how to heal yourself.
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Addiction is an Evolutionary Trait
What if the dopamine spikes that fuel addiction were actually designed to help us survive?
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Love-Bombing: When Affection Feels Like a Trap
Are you being manipulated by a narcissist, or are you merely dating someone who is afraid you won’t like them if they don’t shower you in attention?
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Finding Community When It Seems Impossible
We all long for tribe or community we can rely on. What if the obstacles to creating or finding this are self-imposed?
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When Positive Beliefs Lead Us Astray
Positive beliefs can cause havoc when they are not based in reality.
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5 Signs Your Past is Affecting Your Relationship
Emotional reactivity, cycles of closeness and pulling away, and other dynamics within relationship can be signs to look inward.
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How Exercise Helps with Mental Health
Our brains are built to escape from tigers, not painful emotions. But it treats them the same, so we have to use primitive strategies to keep threats at bay.
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A New Approach to Coaching
Most coaching helps people compensate for obstacles such as anxiety, procrastination, and interpersonal conflicts, but these obstacles are symptoms of trauma. I help clients eliminate the trauma, and the obstacles disappear on their own.
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How to Stop Procrastinating
The cycle of avoidance, last-minute panic, and exhaustion is often more than just a habit. It's a coping mechanism for deeper unresolved emotions.
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Emotional Well-Being is No Longer Optional
This graph shows the relative search volume for the phrase "childhood trauma". We are collectively waking up to the next stage of our evolution as a species.
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The Balance Between Support and Responsibility
Our ability to thrive comes from a delicate balance of support and responsibility , where both must coexist for true empowerment. Through exploring the effects of this balance, and understanding how trauma complicates it, we can learn how to lead ourselves and others to success and well-being.
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Heal Trauma for Better Sex
It's much easier to avoid dealing with trauma. BUT... What if I told you that all the good things in life, including sex, become much more enjoyable when you heal trauma?
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Damaged People Are Lucky
Damaged people are lucky in a certain way: we know we need help, and the help provides something that “normal” people don’t get. We need to redefine and normalize trauma so that everyone can benefit from healing.
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The Role of Meditation in Healing
Meditation provides insights and emotional tolerance, and can even allow us to approach painful memories. What is the best way to use it where healing is concerned?
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Manifesting is Hard When You’re Working Against Yourself
The insidious nature of trauma actively prevents manifestation from happening.
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Stimulation and Dissociation in Modern Times
A particular aspect of modern life makes it hard to connect the dots between negative past experiences and present-day troubles.
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The Link Between Bodily Discomfort and Unwanted Emotions
Consistent bodily discomfort is often a sign of unwanted emotions.
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